20 Things to Say to Encourage Your Wife

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In the last couple weeks, we’ve published two articles that so many readers have loved and are enjoying in practical meaningful ways. 20 Ways to Encourage Your Husband and 20 Ways to Encourage Your Children.

As a result, I’ve had several requests for 20 Ways to Encourage Your Wife. I love it when readers make requests for information! So here we go.

1. Thank you for working so hard.

2. I love the way you took care of that.

3. You are such a great wife.

4. I really appreciate your faithfulness to our marriage.

5. Thanks for loving me so much.

6. You look hot. 

7. You did a fantastic job!

8. I can’t wait to be home together.

9. Can we have a date night?

10. You handled that situation like a pro.

11. I’m praying for you especially today.

12. You did the right thing.

13. I love what you did with that.

14. Thanks for helping me; I needed it.

15. It’s ok- doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

16. That’s a great idea!

17. You can do it; that’s a perfect position for you.

18. I love to see God using you.

19. Thanks for making me laugh- I love that about you.

20. I love you.

Now to be honest, this list is exactly the same as the husband’s, as pointed out by another reader, with the exception of using the word “wife” in place of “husband.” However, I wanted to provide the printable because it was reader-requested and I think each of the printables would make great tools to use for:

  • marriage conferences
  • marriage retreats
  • Valentine’s banquets
  • wedding gift baskets
  • couples gift baskets
  • bridal showers

Click here or on the graphic for the printable to open as a .pdf.

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 Have a great day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Rachel

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20 Things to Say to Encourage Your Husband

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This post is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which I am delighted to be a part of along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE!  

My husband is incredible- have I ever told you that? Truly, he is. And I just don’t tell him often enough how much I appreciate him. Oh, I try to remember to send a random “I love you” text a few times a week. And our kids are always telling us to stop making out in the kitchen because it’s gross. But face to face, heart to heart, I’ve recently been inspired to say words of encouragement to my husband more frequently. You’ll see why when you keep reading.

This list of 20 things to say to encourage your husband is a result of that inspiration. The statements aren’t goofy or silly. They aren’t designed to be flirty, though you could potentially turn them in that direction and I can guarantee he won’t complain. They are just straight forward, short sentences that let him know how often you notice you married a good guy.

1. Thank you for working so hard.

2. I love the way you took care of that.

3. You are such a great husband.

4. I really appreciate your faithfulness to our marriage.

5. Thanks for loving me so much.

6. You look hot. (ok, if you’re over 60, you might consider “handsome” instead… I don’t know, I’m not there yet.)

7. You did an incredible job!

8. I can’t wait to be home together.

9. Can we have a date night?

10. You handled that situation like a pro.

11. I’m praying for you especially today.

12. You did the right thing.

13. I love what you did with that.

14. Thanks for helping me; I needed it.

15. It’s ok- doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

16. That’s a great idea!

17. You can do it; that’s a perfect position for you.

18. I love to see God using you.

19. Thanks for making me laugh- I love that about you.

20. I love you.

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About a year and a half ago,I met an incredibly encouraging woman, Fawn Weaver. While our paths crossed briefly, it was clear to me that she radiated joy and love. Turns out she’s the founder of the Happy Wives Club and last week her awesome book, Happy Wives Club, made the New York Times Bestseller list. There’s a reason for that…for that incredible spark I saw when I met her in person is well-translated into a beautiful story. Perhaps I should say “beautiful stories,” -the book is a tale of happy wives, from all over the world, who love their husbands and marriage. They say the book is like “Eat, Pray, Love meets The 5 Love Languages.” I say the book is wonderfully inspiring. You can grab a copy HERE.

I’m stopping at 20 with the things to say to encourage your hubby’s heart, but I’m guessing that you could really help me out by adding the words you use to encourage your husband’s heart!

ADDENDUM: This well-loved post sparked a FREE PRINTABLE! Click HERE to check it out.

How do you encourage your hubby’s heart?

Rachel

6 Questions to Ask When Married Life Seems Tough

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If you’ve read our family’s story, then you know that my husband and I were each married once before we married each other. I haven’t written on marriage on the blog very often because to tell you the truth, I’ve thought that no one would want to read marital advice from a woman who is married for the second time. But after almost 14 incredible years of marriage to my husband, I’m beginning to realize that the two of us could write a book about “what we know now that we didn’t know then.”

Yesterday my husband’s nephew married a wonderful girl and our family enjoyed watching the two of them unite in marriage. The beautiful moments of the wedding in word, deed, and environment led me to  mentally acknowledge that every moment of their marriage won’t be this perfect.

Regardless of the personality shifts or age changes or life circumstances, it’s easy to think that the marital grass is greener on the other side of the fence. One of our wedding dinner table conversations last night pointed out the fact that if we look at marriages on social media, they can appear to be very perfect.

No one ever posts a photo of two people ignoring each other at the dinner table.

No one posts a photo of him sleeping on the couch or her curled up in the bathroom crying.

And so it’s easy to look at our neighbors or Facebook friends or whomever and wish that our marriage was like theirs.

After talking to a friend about relationships recently, I realized that there are some questions you should ask yourself  about married life when things aren’t going the way you had anticipated- 6 questions to ask when married life seems tough.

Or when the marital grass on the other side of the fence is looking so much greener than your own.

1. Am I watering?

Have I been pouring into my marriage or sucking the life out of it? Without deposits of time to pour into a marriage, you can be sure it will dry up.

2. Am I fertilizing?

Have I taken the time to seasonally nourish my spouse? Spelled out plainly: Do I remember important dates in our relationship? Do I encourage my spouse’s goals? Do I praise my spouse’s achievements?

3. Am I pruning?

Sometimes we need to trim off a few dead ends to keep marriage fresh. When we’ve settled into habits that aren’t appreciated by our spouse, then it’s time to get rid of those habits.

4. Am I weeding?

If bitterness has taken root and crabgrass is overtaking the whole yard, no wonder the neighbor’s grass is looking better. As my father-in-law prayed yesterday, “Lord, let us remember not to let the sun go down on our wrath but to forgive one another each day.”

5. Am I seeding?

Those worn out places of marriage may need a little revitalizing! Do something new together. Try a new restaurant. Plan a weekend trip. Grow new areas of interest together! My hubby and I found running is a wonderful way to seed our marriage.

6. Do we need to seek professional advice?

How do we know when to seek marital counseling? When either one feels deeply that outside assistance is needed.

There are times when married life doesn’t just seem tough, it is tough. But the questions above are ones that can be used to take a step back and determine if we are ready to be part of the solution.

They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. Psalm 126:5

Which of the questions above causes you to reflect more? I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments.

Rachel