20 Things to Say to Encourage A Sibling

things to say to beat sibling rivalry

Ahhh, there’s nothing like the sweet life of summer. Quiet afternoons, sipping lemonade with my feet propped up…

Not exactly. But one can dream a bit, right?

Seriously though, I am enjoying summer and it’s flying by. I love summer so much that I’m digging my feet into the ground in effort to make it slow down a bit. However, there is one thing that has wearied me this summer. Maybe you’ve heard of it?


Sorry, was that a shout?!

I had to yell so you could hear me over the “Mo-om, he’s doing it again.” “She started it.” Ahem.

Perhaps I exaggerate. Just a tad. But wow, do we ever need to work on words that are flying from one sibling to another! For our family’s house rules, the first one is “Be kind.” So I frequently say to my children, “If you will follow the first rule, then you won’t have to even think of most of the others.”

Today I’m sharing the list of phrases that would be great for brothers and sisters to share with one another. If you’re like us and need a sibling rivalry break, then feel free to use this list of 20 things to say to encourage your sibling.

“But this will only give them something more to argue over.”

Perhaps we’ll make it a competition. Maybe the reward is surprise treats from Mom when she overhears SINCERE praise from one sibling to another. Just an idea. Would love to hear yours!

1. Thanks for helping me.

2. You can do it.

3. Good job!

4. Way to go!

5. That was cool.

6. I’m glad I got to see you accomplish that.

7.  Let’s try again.

8. I’m sorry.

9. No problem.

10. It’s okay.

11. Yes, you did it! I knew you could.

12. May I help you?

13. Wow- that was creative!

14. I’d love to.

15. You did awesome!

16. Sure, let’s go.

17. I appreciate what you did.

18.Want to play _________ together?

19. Let’s do it!

20. I’m thankful for you.

Having encouraging words to use IN PLACE of the words so often used between siblings can be transforming if we take the time to work on it. So I’m off to do that. And a few dozen other things.

HUGE thanks to our reader, Faith, for the awesome suggestion of this list!!

Have a fabulous Friday!


Summer Parenting Creed with FREE Printable

At our house, we’ve been counting down the number of school days remaining since spring break! Everyone is ready for more baseball games, camp, and THE POOL! Hooray!

Last year I wrote this little summer creed for parents because I needed it myself. Just a reminder that summer is a wonderful, wonderful time to make memories and enjoy life- so we plan to do just that.

This week I was thinking about the summer creed for parents and I thought it would be great to print it out for the fridge. Of course, I thought some of you might want it for your fridge too! :) So here it is. Just click here or on the graphic to open a full page .PDF.

summer parenting creed printable

Have a fabulous Friday!


Dear Mom: What I’d say if you were here…

When you have a loved one in Heaven, there are times you miss them more than others. Mother’s Day is one of those times for me; my mom left this world 14 years ago. Today I’m participating in a wonderfully encouraging band of sisters to bring you letters of hope and encouragement for the hearts of mothers everywhere. My letter is one to my mom- a letter of hope  You can check out all the beautiful letters here. dear_mom_banner dear_mom_blank Dear Mom:

While it’s been 14 years since you went to Heaven, in many ways it feels like yesterday. As Mother’s Day draws closer this week, I find myself pondering all the things I wish you knew and what I’d say if you were here.

I’d be sure to tell you that I get it so much more now than I did even 14 years ago. This thing called motherhood certainly  contains its challenges and yet you made it look much easier than I ever dreamed. Oh, no doubt, things weren’t always perfect by the definition of the word. But things were so very perfect when it came to loving hearts and investing in souls.

I wish I could tell you that I still remember the day you made a “bowling” game of doing laundry. And how I really wish I could find the time to sew like we used to do, but my heart aches so greatly each time I pick up the sewing machine you bought for me. Then I know what you’d say to that: “Just find the joy in whatever you are doing.”

I’d love to tell you how much I appreciate the beautiful dresses you sent to me while I was in college and how I still read the letters you sent when I need an encouraging word, even 20 years later.

And how I messed up your Christmas present that one year and have wished thousands of times that I could have had a do-over.

I’d love to tell you that now that I have seven kids of my own, I’m still trying to figure out how you did it with nine. And I wish I could ask you how in the world you managed to get  a meal on the table so quickly and yet have it taste so good.

It would be  fun to catch you  up on the little faces of all your beautiful grandbabies and show you the unique talents and skills of each one. Sometimes I get the feeling that you already know them- I don’t know how or why.

Mostly I would want to say thank you again. Thank you for the sacrifices you made, the older clothes you wore so that your children could have something new…the lunches of bread heels for your sandwiches and chip crumbs from the bottom of the bag…the yard sales you held to recycle and make new…the amount of time you committed to your family day and night. It all mattered because I know how to do the same from seeing you live as an example.

The hope of this letter lies in the legacy you left behind on this earth. A legacy of love and faith. A spirit of knowing that life holds much beauty as long as you take the time to see it and each day should be enjoyed as a gift from the heavenly Father.  A legacy that speaks volumes to moms everywhere…

We can only leave legacies when we purposely choose to do so.

I love you, Mom, and can’t wait to see you again.

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