20 Things to Say to Encourage A Sibling

things to say to beat sibling rivalry

Ahhh, there’s nothing like the sweet life of summer. Quiet afternoons, sipping lemonade with my feet propped up…

Not exactly. But one can dream a bit, right?

Seriously though, I am enjoying summer and it’s flying by. I love summer so much that I’m digging my feet into the ground in effort to make it slow down a bit. However, there is one thing that has wearied me this summer. Maybe you’ve heard of it?


Sorry, was that a shout?!

I had to yell so you could hear me over the “Mo-om, he’s doing it again.” “She started it.” Ahem.

Perhaps I exaggerate. Just a tad. But wow, do we ever need to work on words that are flying from one sibling to another! For our family’s house rules, the first one is “Be kind.” So I frequently say to my children, “If you will follow the first rule, then you won’t have to even think of most of the others.”

Today I’m sharing the list of phrases that would be great for brothers and sisters to share with one another. If you’re like us and need a sibling rivalry break, then feel free to use this list of 20 things to say to encourage your sibling.

“But this will only give them something more to argue over.”

Perhaps we’ll make it a competition. Maybe the reward is surprise treats from Mom when she overhears SINCERE praise from one sibling to another. Just an idea. Would love to hear yours!

1. Thanks for helping me.

2. You can do it.

3. Good job!

4. Way to go!

5. That was cool.

6. I’m glad I got to see you accomplish that.

7.  Let’s try again.

8. I’m sorry.

9. No problem.

10. It’s okay.

11. Yes, you did it! I knew you could.

12. May I help you?

13. Wow- that was creative!

14. I’d love to.

15. You did awesome!

16. Sure, let’s go.

17. I appreciate what you did.

18.Want to play _________ together?

19. Let’s do it!

20. I’m thankful for you.

Having encouraging words to use IN PLACE of the words so often used between siblings can be transforming if we take the time to work on it. So I’m off to do that. And a few dozen other things.

HUGE thanks to our reader, Faith, for the awesome suggestion of this list!!

Have a fabulous Friday!


When Spring Seems Tardy & Whimsical Wednesday Blogger Linkup

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Sometimes I question God’s choice of weather. I know, I know. I shouldn’t be so negative. He is Almighty and Holy and I love Him with all my heart. But when the daffodils are covered by snow and the temperatures dip back down to their winter standbys, I can’t help but think that maybe one of the angels was late to clock in or the heavenly calendar wasn’t checked before the weather order was placed. You know, a mistake of some sort just HAD to happen. Or so I think in my humanity…you know, when spring seems tardy.

Then I read a passage like Isaiah 42. Gulp.

“Thus says God, the LORD, who created the heavens and stretched them out, who spread out the earth and what comes from it, who gives breath to the people on it and spirit to those who walk in it: vs. 5

He created the world. And the weather. And spring. He gives me breath.

And I dare to question his timing?

I am the LORD; I have called you in righteousness; I will take you by the hand and keep you;
I will give you as a covenant for the people, a light for the nations, vs. 6

He calls for me. He holds my hand. And without him, I have no promise in life. No hope.

And yet my humanity makes inquiry of circumstances in my life?

to open the eyes that are blind, to bring out the prisoners from the dungeon, from the prison those who sit in darkness. v. 7

He opened my eyes when I couldn’t see a shred of light. He brought me from prisons of my own making, prisons others pushed me in, prisons dark and desperate.

And this is the thanks I give for my rescue?

I am the LORD; that is my name; my glory I give to no other, nor my praise to carved idols. v. 8

Suddenly, through the words of Isaiah, my heart has been lifted. Praise is all I can give. The Lord deserves my glory and praise whether snow lies on the daffodils… or life circumstances seem unfair.

Behold, the former things have come to pass, and new things I now declare; before they spring forth I tell you of them.” v. 9

New things. New things like daffodils who whisper “Spring is coming.”  even underneath their thin blanket of snow. New life and the redemption that only God can give are declared for me. And you.

He makes beautiful things out of dust.

Even when spring seems tardy.

And I’d love your answer to this: How have you witnessed God’s power when things didn’t go in the order you anticipated?


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Bloggers, so glad to have you link up for Whimsical Wednesday! Hard to believe it is here once again, but let’s move on with the party, shall we? Be sure to encourage another blogger or two as you link up your posts full of 100% Christian encouragement!

A Prayer for When I Am Afraid & Whimsical Wednesday Linkup

Earlier this week my husband and I had a conversation with our children about real world events and I actually feared that they would fear as a result of the talk. If there’s one thing I know they need to learn how to do, it’s to pray when they are afraid.

A Prayer for When I Am Afraid

Dear God,
Right now I am afraid.
Fear comes in all shapes and sizes;
The shape and size is no matter
Because I know You are the Almighty God-
The One who placed planets in their orbits
And designed the galaxies…
The One who made the two great lights
To rule the day and night…
Then flung the stars into the sky.
Would You who holds the wonders of the earth
Be willing to hold my hand?
Would You who spoke the world into existence
Be pleased to whisper to my heart?
Because I know that Your love is perfect
And Your perfect love casts out all fear-
No matter the shape or size.

a prayer for when i am afraid

Bloggers, I’m so pleased to have you link up to Whimsical Wednesday once again! It’s always a party and I love that you all bring 100% Christian encouragement to it. Be sure to encourage one another and I’ll do my best to do the same.

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Have a wonderful Wednesday!